Africa: Then and Now
Wedding Ceremony
The Yoruba culture is full of folklore, color, and traditions. Having the early advantage of being exposed to western lifestyle, Yoruba people combined modern customs with their traditional marriage ceremonies.(9) When a woman is still single at a marriageable year, she is considered as "crownless"and does not earn much respect from the tribe. When the single woman gets married, the husband is thus viewed as the "crown to complete the woman."(10) Prior to the wedding, the bride and groom will decide which color and fabric the guests will wear to the wedding. Subsequently, the guests will follow the requirement and buy the necessary clothing. During the wedding, the groom’s family is accompanied by the Alaga Iduro/ Olopa Iduro (standing policeman), while the bride’s family is accompanied by the Alaga Ijoko/Olopa Ijoko (sitting policeman).(11) The standing and sitting policemen, along with the Alaga Ijoko (MC), are the anchors of the wedding. Yoruba believes that it's a shame to gather the guests without feeding them with delicious delicacy. They therefore would spend months to develop a wedding menu that is rich in color, aroma, and taste. The ceremony begins with the arrival of the groom and his family as they are welcomed by the Alaga Ijoko. They state their reason for visit and pay the entry fee that is asked by the Alaga Ijoko.(12) Once they are all seated, the groom will present a proposal letter that will be read out loud by a younger female from the bride family. After which an acceptance letter will be presented from the groom side and hence it will wrap up the beginning stages of the wedding.(13)
Although the bride and groom have a "dress code" for the guests, people still managed to dress distinctively. Feyisola Ogunfemi. (Who is a Nigerian wedding planner with over 10 years of experience, and the owner of Statuesque Events, which specializes in multicultural weddings on the East Coast and abroad. ) claims that “elders usually choose to wear aso-ebi and this is the case both in Nigeria and abroad.” Additionally, non-Nigerians who wish to wear traditional attire to weddings are welcome to do so."(14) Yorubas have a greeting custom known as Ìdobálè where the groom and his friends will prostrate in front of the bride's family to pay their respects. This custom is also known as the "Yoruba Prostration" (15) Ogunfemi also notes that “once the men prostrate on the ground, the bride’s family asks a few questions, the groom is seated and then the bride enters with her ladies who are all wearing matching aso-ebi." After this, she places a hat on the groom's head and then he carries her. This is known as Igbeyawo. He then places a ring on her finger and they are pronounced married.”(16) Prostrating from the groom symbolizes that he is ready to embrace himself in the marriage and will do anything for the bride in the future. All the traditions in the Yoruba wedding are symbols and exercises that will bring the bride and groom closer than ever.

This is a modern Yoruba wedding ceremony, the attires and atomsophere both derive from the traditional Yoruba culture. (31)

A picture of the bride wearing the decorated clothing accompanied by beautiful color. This outfit is specifically made for the wedding (32)

The groom and the groomsmen are prostrating to the bride and the bride's family. (33)

The wedding cake is the responsibility of the bride. She chooses one that best complements the joyful occasion. (34)